i still / unknown

i still love you

and that’s all i can feel

i still miss you

and that’s all i can say


Detachment by Morrie Schwartz

“Take any emotion – love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions – if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them – you can never get to being detached, you’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience the fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.'”

– Spoken by Morrie Schwartz, taken from Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom 


And yet my jealousy arises,

when there’s nothing to envy at all.

To know I don’t need to prove myself,

is the best validation of all.

But here I witness achievements,

I don’t even want to possess,

yet my mind deceives me into believing,

that all I have is less.


If you love quotes as much as me, then you can appreciate a good one when you read it. Here i’m going to list some of favoruite quotes that I’ve recenytly found. I hope that they speak to you as much as they do me.

  • You should not have to rip yourself into pieces to keep others whole.
  • Forgiving people who have hurt you is your gift to them. Forgetting people who have hurt you is your gift to you.
  • Don’t miss out on something that could be great just because it could also be difficult.
  • Let yourself move to the next chapter in life when the time comes, don’t remain stuck on the same page.
  • To finally move on and start something new, you must release the unchangeble past and embrace your future.
  • People overestimate what they can do in a single day and underestimate what they can do in their whole lives.
  • Own who you are.
  • The most reliable way to predict the future is to create it.
  • Consider how very fortunate you are. Consider it every day. The more you count your blessings, the more blessings there will be to count. – marcandangel
  • What worries you, masters you.
  • What consumes your mind, controls your life.
  • Stay close to anything that makes you glad you are alive.
  • The secret to getting ahead is getting started.
  • If it doesn’t open…it’s not your door.
  • The secret to being happy is accepting where you are in life and making te most out of everyday.
  • Exist to be happy, not to impress.
  • The cost of not following your heart, is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.
  • Confidence is not ‘they will like me’. Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.
  • Be yourself only for yourself.
  • We met for a reason, either you’re a blessing or a lesson.
  • Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion.
  • I want him but I also want to get over him, and neither are happening.
  • If you’re not doing what you love, you’re wasting your time.
  • Old ways won’t open new doors.
  • Prove yourself to yourself not others.
  • It’s better to live your own life imperfectly thn to imitate someone else’s perfectly. – Elizabeth Gilbert
  • You are your only limit.
  • No one is you and that is your power.
  • I can choose to let it define me, confine me, refine me, outshine me, or I can choose to move on and leave it behind me.
  • There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.
  • You are entirely up to you.
  • Comparison will kill you.
  • Sometimes you win sometimes you learn.
  • If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.
  • Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.
  • Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own.
  • When something feels off, it is. – Abraham Hicks
  • Don’t be eye candy, be soul food.
  • It is often said that before you die your life passes before your eyes. This is in fact true. It’s called living. – Terry Practchett
  • If you want better, go get better.

Follow my pinterest if you would like, it’s @vhowell14. You will be able to find even more quotes in my ‘quotes’ board.


And to know that your all wasn’t enough, is a heart break in itself.

But, your all does not hold any faults.

Your all is not inadequate.

It is not to blame

He is.

He was not appreciative of all that you attain.

He simply didn’t want it, or was too blind to view it in all its glory.

And that is sad for him.

For he is the unfortunate.

You will discover a being of whom sees and wants you for all that you are.

You will find contentment within your romantic field.

He will sadly continue to explore for something that isn’t real.

An all that is perfect

An all that doesn’t exist.

But by then, you will already have it all elsewhere.

Single Identity

‘Nothing is as empowering as finding your identity as an individual’

Backpacking around Asia, late night road trips with friends, spending Christmas with family, taking last minute holidays abroad, becoming so incredibly intoxicated that you cannot remember a thing the next day, dancing like no one is watching, performing yoga outside on a summer morning, tasting a perfectly ripe mango, taking an afternoon hike in the sun and perfecting your favoruite chocolate cake recipe.

Here i’ve listed several activities that make us humans happy. Activities that can and should be completed outside of a relationship. Activities that empower you as an individual and help you to learn what you do and don’t like. By doing this, it will help you to learn every intricate detail about yourself; be it what you love, what you hate, what music you really want to listen to, what you actually want to write about and what clothes you deep down want to wear. By doing these things whilst being single, you are able to create your own identity individually.

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Life does not revolve around love. I’m sorry to crush your dreams, but, there a million more things that make up our existance. Romance, relationships, affection and love are just small aspects that add up to who and what we are. As individuals we can choose what we wish to prioritise, and as a nineteen year old with not much relationship or life experience, but of whom likes to think of herself as wise for her age, I highly reccommend you don’t do this. At least when you are young.

Here is a diagram of some of the things that help make you, you. You see your love life on there? No. Because there are so many more important factors.

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I know that everyone says it, but they say it for a reason – spend your young years focusing on yourself. You are moulding into the amazing uniqueness that you are. Why be moulded by someone else? Especially if they’re toxic. You are too young to be wasting your days missing events to sit indoors crying about him, asking why you werent enough and stating that you’re never going to find anyone better. That’s bollocks. Instead, walk out that front door and create enough memories to wash out that negativity. Learn about the world, learn about you and fall in love with yourself.

There is nothing else that makes you feel as content as being completely and unapologetically yourself. It delivers you a happiness I cannot explain. When you are in a relationship, at least in my experience, you want to be what they want. Yes, they fell in love with you, but as you grow as an individual, you change. Being committed to someone prevents you from being able to freely change yourself without potential consequences. You want to scrap your accountancy dream and become a art therapist in Berlin? You want to cut your hair shoulder length and dye it blue? You want to change friends groups, become vegan, dress gothic or get a cat? When you are with someone, or trying to impress someone, you usually can’t just snap your fingers and do these things. What if he doesnt like it? What if he no longer finds me attractive? These are the questions that will come to mind. But let me tell you the answer: WHO CARES!

I can promise you that the reward of doing what you want to do, and making yourself happy, is ten times greater than the reward of dismissing these dreams and instead doing what you think he likes. 

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Spend new years in a different country and kiss a complete stranger at midnight, spend your Christmas money on concert tickets for you and your best friend’s favourite musician, and spend your birthday doing something with friends that you were too drunk to remember. Use your spare time discovering a sport you enjoy or find out what you’re best at drawing. Go and buy what ever clothes you want. Would your ex have found that shirt too bold? Then get it. The empowerment you will feel when simply walking around wearing what you like without giving a damn if it’s flattering or attractive is extraordinary. Spend you free time writing poetry, making music, coming up with your own theories. Do whatever the hell you want without taking anyone elses’ disapproval or opinion into consideration.

Create your own identity

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Correct, doing these fun things may not look as picture perfect as the image above. The majority of people don’t have the money or free time to fly to california and have a month off of work travelling in an old truck with friends, but you don’t have to do these exact things to be happy and single. You must have heard the saying; ‘It’s not where you are, but who you’re with‘. My friends became my family. I confided in them instead of a partner. They gave me incredible advice and really did have my best intentions at heart. We went out driving around until 3am almost every night, smoked illegal substances and danced around a field in broad daylight. We went out clubbing and danced until we couldn’t  anymore and we laughed until our stomachs hurt. I hardly had time to dwell, and when I did, they picked me back up, hugged me, and reminded me of how awesome I am. These are some of the best times i’ve ever had, all while going through a break up.

Now, you are a single, gorgeous individual who needs to get out there and find themselves. They most definately don’t need no relationship to make them happy. Go and show ’em what you’re made of.

Throw this playlist on and get yourself outside in the sun for a run, jump in your car for a night time drive, or simply tap along whilst sitting on bed doodling – feel empowered because you are an awesome individual with a great identity.

You got this.