Jealousy

And yet my jealousy arises,

when there’s nothing to envy at all.

To know I don’t need to prove myself,

is the best validation of all.

But here I witness achievements,

I don’t even want to possess,

yet my mind deceives me into believing,

that all I have is less.

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Fear Facing

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When you face your fear, most of the time you will discover that it was not really such a big threat after all. We all need some form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation – it empowers us to overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams.  – Les Brown

Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it. – Judy Blume

Are you feeling a bit shaken, maybe fearful and doubtful and completely utterly, wildly terrified? Good. Keep going. – Victoria Brickson

We gain strength and courage and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Don’t let your fear of what could happen, make nothing happen. – unknown

If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary. – John Rohn

When you face your fears, you’re free. – unknown

If we would only see that all limitations are self-imposed and chosen out of fear, we would leap at once. – Adyashanti

Relieve Your Anxiety

Anxiety is completely and utterly normal. It is an emotion just like anger or happiness – every single person holds it. But, there’s a cut-off point. Once anxiety begins to impact your quality of life, that’s when it is no longer ‘normal’. That, ladies and gentleman, is when it’s a problem.

I watched a video about anxiety earlier, and the presenter described anxiety being like a sensitive car alarm. For the majority of cars, their alarms go off when there is danger i.e. someone breaking into them. But, there’s always that one car in the street that is set off from something as simple as a gust of wind – this car’s alarm has been unnecessarily turned on. A person suffering from anxiety is much like this car, their anxiety being the alarm.

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If you are suffering from intense anxiety or even an anxiety attack, here are some calming activities that I believe may relieve you of that horrible tension:

  • Take yourself somewhere calming and comfortable. If you’re lucky enough to be at home then try your bedroom.
  • Accept how you are feeling and stop fighting it. Dedicate an hour of your time to calm down and continue with your day afterward.
  • Turn off any unnatural lighting and embrace the natural light from outside.
  • If you own a diffuser then throw that on. Right now I’m loving Organic Defence by Neil’s Yard mixed with Orange Blossom by Tisserand.
  • Music, music, music. Throw on some chilled background music to set a nice relaxing environment. A couple of suggestions are Trapped in a club by Sales and The Bend by Real Estate. In fact, create an entire playlist dedicated to your relaxation time.
  • Confide in someone. Whether it be a best friend on WhatsApp, a partner over a phone call or someone at home, it really puts your worries into perspective and takes a large weight off of your chest.
  • Eat some feel good food – a fair few chunks of dark chocolate and green tea seems to do the trick for me.
  • Submerge yourself into a warm, candle lit bath. Fill it with salts and oils and allow yourself to relax.
  • Stay away from any poisonous social media. I find browsing Pinterest or watching Ben Brown’s vlogs to be calming and very positive past times.

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It is perfectly fine to not be ok all of the time. It is perfectly fine not to be ok most of the time. What counts is that you don’t give up. What counts is that you are strong enough to trudge through these foggy times and make it out the other side.

Just because you aren’t ok right now, does not mean that you will not be ok next year, next week or even in 1 hour. Just because you aren’t reaching your potential right now, does not mean that you won’t in the future.

Tackling school, attaining a highly-paid job, or owning an Audi is fantastic, they are brilliant accomplishments. But, I believe that the biggest and best accomplishment in life is to overcome your weaknesses and fears. For a person to be happy even if they had nothing at all is the ultimate. That is a happiness not dependent on anyone or anything else, that is happiness created from within.

Here are some positive quotes to keep you going:

  • I believe in the person I’m becoming.
  • Aspire not to have more, but to be more.
  • When a flower doesn’t bloom you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.
  • What you allow is what will continue.
  • The comeback is always stronger than the setback.
  • There are people who would love to have your bad days.
  • Quality, not quantity.
  • Art takes time – Monet grew his gardens before he painted them.

Zodiac Authenticity

Are Zodiac signs real? – A question mostly dismissed when asked, a theory shrugged off and mocked.

But what is the truth? With religious groups believing in the existence of mythical creatures and men in the sky, can the 12 divisions really be alive?

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Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, and Pisces are the 12 signs first created in ancient Egypt and later adopted by the Babylonians. The signs are divided into 4 sub-groups.

Fire signs: Aries, Sagittarius, Leo

Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces

Air signs: Libra, Aquarius, Gemini

Earth signs: Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo

Like most people, I agree with the belief that you are able to make any of signs compatible with your personality. Humans love labels. Whether it be your sexuality, gender, mental state or ethnicity – people love making categories. No one can just be. Maybe it’s the natural wanting to be a part of something – to belong. This may lead people to believe they are something that they are not to fit in.

But I relate to my sign a lot. I can relate to Aquarius more than any other. Even if I were to swap all the signs names around, I would still choose Aquarius’ original description.

I know most of them are completely made up. For example, ‘What food you are most like depending on your sign‘. It’s a load of rubbish, it’s just for fun. But some of the more descriptive texts are incredibly accurate.

I stumbled across a post regarding what traits a girl holds regarding her Zodiac sign.

Mine read:

Aquarius; they love to shock you. aquarian girls will do anything to prove people wrong. they’re fiercely independent and almost always have a very large circle of friends. like Capricorn, they’re very easygoing and love to joke around. they are brutally honest and can be detached. aquarian girls will also get frustrated if they feel someone is dragging them down, they hate extra baggage.

This piece of text sums me up entirely – it’s actually scary. I showed friends and family, and they agreed. As I read through each of the other sign’s descriptions, none of them were as similar as mine. Although, I can relate to at least a few traits listed in each sign.

Maybe it is simply all in my mind, maybe it’s just a giant coincidence. Who knows. Like people say we’re living on a floating ball in a never-ending universe – anything can happen.

My Ecological Encounter

After leaving University and having a month of much needed rest, I decided (or so my bank account did) that I needed to begin earning an income once again – especially with Christmas right around the corner.

I’m now employed at a temporary ice rink of which I work the bar, reception and marshall the ice.

Whilst handing out skates to customers, my colleague called over an older man. He was interested in the book that the older man was holding as he believed it was one he’d read.

It wasn’t the same one but was in fact a book about ecology. This gentleman then went on to tell me how he’s writing a book himself. I asked what about, and he replied that it’s about the relationship between children and nature. He mentioned that he had previously studied a PhD on the relationship between adults and nature. He believes that our connection with nature is vital, and we need to revert back to our childlike selves to rekindle this special bond with nature itself. It is something we lose as we grow due to being dismissed and ‘told off’ as children for expressing these behaviours.

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I found this man very inspiring  (of which my colleagues found very strange, I could tell from their facial expressions). Not only was this because he’s indulging himself into something quite exquisite, and attaining one of my ultimate goals of writing his own book, but because of something very relevant in my life right now.

Higher education.

He only recently attained his PhD after wanting to study it since the 1970s. I asked if he wished he’d done it earlier, but he answered no. He was very glad that he had waited. He continued to explain that the reason behind why it was better that he’d completed it as an older man, was because he didn’t feel the pressure that consumes young adults. There was no rush, he could truly apprecite his studies for all that they were.

This man was living proof that there’s no age limit or time scale to achieve your goals. I could tell that there was a fire inside of him being fueled by his passion – more passion than I’ve ever seen anyone else hold.

How To Be Happy

To be ultimately happy, you must truly love yourself. You must love who you are regardless of any other aspect. You must put your successes or how attractive you are deemed to the side. You must fall in love with yourself for simply being you. The feelings, emotions, morals, thoughts, flaws and strengths that you sustain. Each thing that makes up who you are. I want you to love yourself so much so that if you were to lose everything, you would be just as fond as yourself as you were when you had it all.

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Happiness starts with you – not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with you. Unknown

Stop being materialistic, you are worth more than your title, your occupation or your fitness level.

Some of those who attain the highest standards of these materialistic attributions are not happy at all because they simply do not love themselves. They are trying to have enough physically to fill in the emptiness that they feel. They live their lives never feeling enough. Not to anyone else’s standards might I say, but their own. We can be our own worst enemies at times, wasting our time and emotions attempting to reach these impossible goals of being the best at everything. Attempting to win love and appreciation from others because we lack it ourselves. The truth is, happiness begins within. You must love yourself from the inside, and then everything will fall into place on the outside.

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Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose. C.S. Lewis

You can have it ‘all’ and not be happy. To waste your life never feeling fulfilled because you don’t hold that job or earn that salary is sad. Because you don’t look like that or weigh two stone less. Because you don’t drive that car or wear that wedding ring. Because you don’t have that degree or live in that neighbourhood. If only everyone knew that these factors are just small additions to life. They do not make up life itself – you do.

 

Quote-tastic

If you love quotes as much as me, then you can appreciate a good one when you read it. Here i’m going to list some of favoruite quotes that I’ve recenytly found. I hope that they speak to you as much as they do me.

  • You should not have to rip yourself into pieces to keep others whole.
  • Forgiving people who have hurt you is your gift to them. Forgetting people who have hurt you is your gift to you.
  • Don’t miss out on something that could be great just because it could also be difficult.
  • Let yourself move to the next chapter in life when the time comes, don’t remain stuck on the same page.
  • To finally move on and start something new, you must release the unchangeble past and embrace your future.
  • People overestimate what they can do in a single day and underestimate what they can do in their whole lives.
  • Own who you are.
  • The most reliable way to predict the future is to create it.
  • Consider how very fortunate you are. Consider it every day. The more you count your blessings, the more blessings there will be to count. – marcandangel
  • What worries you, masters you.
  • What consumes your mind, controls your life.
  • Stay close to anything that makes you glad you are alive.
  • The secret to getting ahead is getting started.
  • If it doesn’t open…it’s not your door.
  • The secret to being happy is accepting where you are in life and making te most out of everyday.
  • Exist to be happy, not to impress.
  • The cost of not following your heart, is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.
  • Confidence is not ‘they will like me’. Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.
  • Be yourself only for yourself.
  • We met for a reason, either you’re a blessing or a lesson.
  • Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion.
  • I want him but I also want to get over him, and neither are happening.
  • If you’re not doing what you love, you’re wasting your time.
  • Old ways won’t open new doors.
  • Prove yourself to yourself not others.
  • It’s better to live your own life imperfectly thn to imitate someone else’s perfectly. – Elizabeth Gilbert
  • You are your only limit.
  • No one is you and that is your power.
  • I can choose to let it define me, confine me, refine me, outshine me, or I can choose to move on and leave it behind me.
  • There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.
  • You are entirely up to you.
  • Comparison will kill you.
  • Sometimes you win sometimes you learn.
  • If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.
  • Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.
  • Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own.
  • When something feels off, it is. – Abraham Hicks
  • Don’t be eye candy, be soul food.
  • It is often said that before you die your life passes before your eyes. This is in fact true. It’s called living. – Terry Practchett
  • If you want better, go get better.

Follow my pinterest if you would like, it’s @vhowell14. You will be able to find even more quotes in my ‘quotes’ board.